Many of us have the tendency to blame others for mistakes and disappointments. To protect ourselves from pain and avoid responsibility, it is easy to blame the inequality in society, our upbringing, our bad luck, or the current pandemic.

We look outwards and project our frustration on someone or something else which allows us to temporarily forget our troubles. Unfortunately, this leaves us feeling powerless and we don’t take action to change our circumstances, so we slip into a cycle of finding someone else to blame. Eventually, we realise that the truth is we are the own architects of our failures and start blaming ourselves.

However, blaming yourself is not the solution as you will end up feeling incompetent and this will diminish your self-worth.

The solution is to release all blame and take responsibility for your own life. Accept your situation with honesty and compassion and look for the strength within yourself to move forward. This is your life and you have the power to change it.

Be patient with yourself and take small steps every day to get better. You can change and make your life better once you let go of blame. If you are planning on doing Advanced Tax in December or March, I recommend you purchase Advanced Tax Condensed and make a head start. You need to deal with at least 30 separate technical areas to pass the exam and this book will really make the difference.